Buying Lingerie – Guest Post
I know you think that lingerie is all about you but in reality it’s all about her. Now, hear me out on this one. If SHE feels sexy and confident then YOU enjoy the result. If she feels self-conscious and vulnerable then the experience won’t be everything it COULD be.
When the idea first popped into my head I put out the question to all of my girlfriends thinking that I’d get a universal response for that one ‘style’ that every woman said she loved…I got the exact opposite response. I don’t know what I was thinking! Women come in all sorts of gorgeous shapes and sizes, why did I expect to find a ‘one size fits all’ solution? What some women found ultra-sexy others found ultra-uncomfortable.
Something you might find sexy on the hanger might be something she finds absolutely hideous. A perfect example happened to me a few years back when my boyfriend at the time surprised me with a bunch of goodies from the sex-shop. I was of course thrilled to see him take initiative out of the blue and didn’t want to dissuade him from continuing to do so. So, I wore the awful – I mean AWFUL – lingerie he had purchased for me. It was made of feathers and string and it really didn’t leave anything to the imagination. I felt silly in it – like some sort of weird bird of paradise / sexual object. Needless to say, it was used but once and was mysteriously lost to the washing machine gods. That entire experience, though well-intended, was embarrassing for me. I think he knew it too because he never bought me lingerie again. It turned into a lose-lose situation, when it could have been a win-win.
If a special occasion is around the corner and lingerie is in order make it an ultimately intimate experience for the both of you and take her shopping. I know, I know….doesn’t sound a lot of fun but it’s a good learning experience.
- Make note of what she gravitates towards
- Make note of what she’d “never be caught dead in”
- Communicate what you like to see “This would look so sexy on you”
Have her try the pieces on and let her model them for you or if you want to keep the element of surprise ( I know I thoroughly enjoy seeing the look on my guys face when I first walk out) then let her make the choice in secret. She is going to LOVE that you took the initiative and you WILL reap the benefits. Trust me. Afterwards you’ll have a good idea of what to purchase in future as well. Just make sure you get the size right. Can’t stress that enough! Too big or too small could turn into a night on the couch.
Women desire the idea of being desired so lingerie is all about HER. The sooner you accept that the sooner you’ll enjoy all of the goodies.
Bio: Online dating veteran who prefers to find the silver-lining in situations. Life is short. Might as well laugh. Masters in the school of life with hopes of gaining my PhD in time. Real life advice because, well, I’ve been there. @MexiGingerMe
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