The Secret to a Great First Date
If you’re single and dating you know what first dates are like. They are nerve wracking! You are meeting this person, sometimes for the first time, and you want to make a good impression. Let’s face it, you want them to like you, right? Well, I’m here to tell you WHO CARES!!! What? You think I’m crazy? Not at all … I know what I have to offer and I know that I’m a catch for the right fisherman, so why should I care if someone doesn’t like me? They aren’t right for me and I’m not right for them. Why on earth would I want to force that? You know you’ve done it, tried to MAKE someone want you and like you with a very bad result. It was a bad experience for the both of you. Am I right? I’ve been there, so I know, oh do I ever. When I realized that I’m worth more than that date that’s when I had my epiphany, the secret to a great first date is not giving a damn.
Not Giving a Damn
What does it mean to not give a damn? Well, I’ll tell you. Not giving a damn means that you are going into this date knowing full well who you are and what you have to offer. You are a whole, happy person meeting a new human being. How exciting is that?! This new person has lived their own life and experienced a lot of interesting things you haven’t. What a great opportunity to learn! I talk a lot about being a sponge for new information. I love meeting new people and learning about their life’s path. How interesting!! That’s how I approach first dates. That’s how I assess if this person is right for me – do they keep me interested? Am I attracted to them? Do they make me want more?
Secret to a Great First Date
So how do you not give a damn on your first date? It’s all about the approach. Look at it as meeting a new person, not your potential long term partner and, for goodness sake, don’t put them in the prospective bride/groom shoes!!! That’s the worst thing you can do!! You don’t know if this person is right for you long term right away. If you project this then you know what’s going to happen? You’re going to lose them and yourself. You will scare them away. Don’t latch on too quickly, you need to keep a bit of a distance so you can see this person for who they really are, not what they want to show you. Additionally, you really need to listen to your gut on this one. They could be showing you everything you want to see and telling you everything you want to hear and you think they are PERFECT and can’t believe your luck … but, in reality they are just putting on a show. It’s happened to me before, I got suckered in because I was vulnerable at the time, but quickly learned my mistake and now I rely on my gut instincts to lead me.
A Great First Date
So, what can you do on a first date that’s casual and fun? LOTS of stuff!! First dates shouldn’t cost a lot of money, actually they shouldn’t cost more than $20. That’s my rule. This way there’s no resentment or feelings like you owe them something. Who pays? Well, whoever invites is a good general rule. A great first date can be going for a nature walk, going to a museum (lots of free exhibits), being a tourist in your own city, going for a coffee or grabbing a drink. So many options, you just have to be open to it! What’s the secret to a great first date? DON’T GIVE A DAMN!! Now, go forth and don’t give a damn and have fun!! Dating is fun!!!
Your Sister in Dating Bliss,
Single Dating Diva
Single Dating Diva is an award winning blog from dating expert Suzie dedicated to single people everywhere! It showcases the many adventures we have and how challenging, but also exciting dating really is! She shares her dating stories as well as those of others. With experience comes wisdom and she also shares some lessons learned along the way helping others through her consulting service. WINNER of Best Overall Dating Blog and Named one of the 10 BEST Women’s Dating Experts!