How to break the bad dating cycle – Guest Post
Ever notice how the same issues seem to keep popping up in every relationship you have? Different person, but the same old problem. Maybe it’s because you’re dating the same type of person over and over again. It’s what you THINK you want but obviously (or not so obviously) you are, in fact, NOT compatible. You’re essentially trying to fit a round peg into a square hole but no matter how much you try, how much you force it, it’s just not going to work, and eventually, the relationship fails.
Here are three tips on how to break the cycle and end up in a more compatible relationship:
Open your mind
I don’t know how many times I’ve seen a perfectly decent match get dismissed because someone is “not my type”. How do you know what your type is, if you haven’t tried a sampling of all the fish the sea has to offer? Maybe you think you love a shark but in fact would be much happier with a dolphin. Know what I’m saying?
Take a good look in the mirror
It’s a tough thing to admit to yourself but YOU are the constant variable in this equation and so maybe it’s YOUR issue. Take some time to really reflect on who you are and what you TRULY want out of life and out of a partner. Once you’ve been able to muddle through the expectations and infatuations to the core of your heart’s desire it’ll be easier to meet someone who actually fits the bill.
To your gut. More often than not our guts know far before we do that something just isn’t right, but we rationalize it away. If your gut isn’t screaming loud enough, then perhaps listening to those closest to you, your dear friends and family, could benefit you as well. They, after all, know and love the real you and only want to see you HAPPY. Maybe listening to what they have to say is worth at least a moment of reflection. In the end it’s YOU who knows best but if your gut and loved ones are all screaming “NO!” then you should be saying it too.
Break the cycle. Start saying “NO” to what’s wrong and eventually you’ll be meeting what’s right, and you’ll be able to say with every fiber of your being: “YES!”
Bio: Online dating veteran who prefers to find the silver-lining in situations. Life is short. Might as well laugh. Masters in the school of life with hopes of gaining my PhD in time. Real life advice because, well, I’ve been there. @MexiGingerMe
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