Dating Resolutions 2013
It always happens around this time of the year when people reflect on their lives and what changes they want to make for the new year. People make all sorts of resolutions, to eat healthier, drink less, socialize more. Many of these resolutions have quantifiable results; you can work out more times per week, choose salad over fries and go out three times a week instead of two. But what about a resolution that includes opening your heart more to allow love in? How can you measure this type of resolution?
When you decide to take proactive steps to find love, there are a few different things that you can do to open your heart. One of the first steps is to revisit some of your old dating habits that aren’t working anymore and consider some new, fresh ways of getting out there and meeting people.
Have A Plan
It’s been proven, time and time again, that people who develop some sort of plan usually accomplish their goals much faster and easier than those who do not. So, as 2013 begins, now is as good a time as any to set your dating goals. Take the time to review what hasn’t worked in the past and revisit what has.
Throw Out The Garbage
Friends-with-benefits, exes still lurking around, unrequited crushes. Now is the time to get rid of all of last year’s baggage in order to make room for the man or woman of your dreams.
Change Up Your Online Profile
Think about all the new things you have done over the past year that have helped make you who you are today and consider adding them to your online dating profile. People change over the course of the year, let your profile show this as well. Switching profile pictures, adding a new interest or mentioning a new hobby may help spice things up.
Keep an Open Mind
While you should never compromise your values or ideals when dating, there are those of us who are so picky when deciding who to go out with that we may be inadvertently eliminated some pretty awesome partners. There are times that opposites really do attract so the key is to keep an open mind when meeting people for the first time, (or the second time) whether on or offline.
Be The Person You’d Like to Date
Everyone uses certain words in their online profiles to describe our ideal date, like funny, caring, adventurous or thoughtful. When you go out on a date, try to be those things yourself. When you become the person you want to date, you are more likely to feel good about yourselves and send out good karmic vibes. It’s more likely that others will recognize these good vibes and be more attracted to you.
What are your dating resolutions for 2013? Did you make any last year, and how did they turn out? We’d love to hear your stories!
Ali Goldfield, Psychotherapist