3 Surprising Online Dating Mistakes You’re Probably Making Right Now
Courtesy of Liz @ WeLoveDates.com
Have you been listening to your friends, family or coworkers raving about online dating and wondered why it just hasn’t been working for you? Or been invited to yet another marriage of a happy couple who met on the internet while you can’t even get anyone to return your messages? Don’t worry, all hope isn’t lost. There are a few surprising online dating mistakes that people make over and over again that can stand in the way of them finding love online.
You limit your location preferences. It’s highly unlikely that any of us are hoping to get into a long distance relationship, but limiting the area that you are willing to travel for love too strictly can backfire. One of the absolute BEST aspects of online dating is the ability to meet anyone, from anywhere. People whom otherwise never would have crossed your path are now completely accessible. When you are tempted to check the box next to the “15 mile” max distance you’d like for your matches, take a minute. Most of us drive more than 15 miles to a really good restaurant, and this is your heart and soul we are talking about! Open your mind, open your heart and open up your location preferences.
Don’t make online dating your life. It’s true that the more you put into your online dating experience, the more you’ll get out of it. This does not mean that your life should be centered around online dating. Some daters think that they should constantly update their profiles (daily), or be signed into their account 24/7 just in case someone interesting wants to chat. They respond to messages right away and upload new photos to their profile hourly. Now, there is nothing wrong with wanting to make sure that your profile is an accurate reflection of your life at the moment, but when your number one hobby seems to be online dating, other members and potential matches might think you are desperate and have nothing else going on in your life. Do you?
Getting frustrated with the process. Dating, whether online or meeting someone at a bar, will make you want to rip your hair out at times. It will bum you out, confuse you, and make you feel like you just aren’t good enough. Doesn’t that sound like fun? But along with the bad comes a multitude of good, because when you do find that one person you’ve been waiting for, you’ll instantly forget about the last bad date you went on. It will all have been worth it. Remaining as positive as possible will do more for your online dating experience than a beautiful profile photo ever could.
Liz is the social media manager for WeLoveDates.com, a worldwide online dating site. She calls herself the L.A version of Carrie Bradshaw and isn’t afraid to admit it. Find more dating advice and tips on the We Love Dates blog, and connect on Twitter or Facebook.